| Behavior modification is not as hard as you might
think. You do it everyday without knowing that you are doing it
actually. Here are a few examples of how you might be modifying
your behavior without even realizing it.
1. When you go to the market, you find that they have changed things
around. You have to hunt for the things you have on your list.
Once you get used to the new place, you have changed your behavior to
accommodate the store placement.
2. You start a new job, you have to alter your routine to
accommodate the new schedule. You have modified your behavior.
3. Your new job requires you to drive a new way. You have modified
your behavior for this new route.
What you are doing is positive compromise for the better. Yes
compromise is a good thing when you need to alter your way of doing
things.
I think you are getting the point here. Modification is not that hard
to do when you have the interest and attitude to make it happen. You
might be thinking to yourself, what happens to the old habits that I
had? In my opinion, you are not "nourishing" them anymore, I feel
that they become dormant. You don't have to think about losing an
old habit, you simply start to nourish a new one!
Working on behavior modification is an interesting
project. First you decide what alterations you want to make. I hear you
saying, well how do I find a behavior that I'd like to mimic? I
can tell you how I did my research and modification to my behavior.
( by the way, I'm still working on these modifications in my own life)
What I did was to mimic a small behavior that I admired. I might have
seen it on the silver screen, a friend, relative or just about anyone
that I admired. I was very careful to only mimic that small part
of their behavior, I did not want to become them. I wanted to be me.
I would "try it on" for size. Then if I felt it fit but was not quite
right, then I'd alter this new behavior to fit my needs.
I did not want to become someone else, that was a sure bet. I simply
wanted to made a few alterations. One at a time and, as I said
before, I only took a small portion of a behavior I admired and worked
it into my life. If it did not fit I dropped it and did not use it
anymore. What you are doing is role playing of sorts.
To help you find love, my goal is to help you love yourself. Self love
is the first step. Finding someone to love you is the second step.
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